The Dreaded Whymeees

Yes, the other day I caught myself out in a dreaded attack of the whymeees.

We all have those days:- why me? what did I do to deserve this...? You know how it goes.

I used to feel really guilty about having the odd whymeee attack. Now, of course, I recognise it for what it is, acknowledge it, accept it, then move on.

We don't need to torture ourselves over being human.

We all have days when we're up and days when we're down. We are what we are after all.

The trick is not to dwell in the land of the whymeees, for there lives envy, jealousy, self pity, bitterness and all those other nasties that can take a hold of you and turn your view of life sour.

On the other hand, it's rather unhealthy to feel totally positive and up all the time. We are allowed to feel negative emotions, you know. In fact we are supposed to feel them.

Negative emotions are our counter-weights. They are our early warning systems and our alert to the possibility that we may in fact be learning something.

Having negative emotions to balance out our wholeness is a healthy thing.

However, if you tip too far the other way, you can become negative yourself and start generating negative energy that can actually follow you around and cause negative things to happen in your life.

None of us want that to happen, and yet, from time to time, we all do it. Congratulations everyone, we're human!

So, folks, take a step back, take a deep breath and take a really deep look into yourself.

Are you harbouring a grudge deep down inside? Are you jealous of a friend's success?

Ask youself, why?

Why am I jealous of my friend? I love that he/she is successful. Why does it make me feel negative when I should feel happy for him/her?

Your answer may be as simple as: Because I wish that could have happened to me. I wish I had what he/she has.

If it is, then own your feeling. Say it out loud. Banish it to the 'dealt-with' basket. That's not to say that you should make light of your own feelings, even such negative ones.

We are allowed to be disappointed, even envious of something we wanted that was given to someone else. But instead of dwelling on that feeling and allow it to gain power over us, look into why that success, or whatever, came to your friend and not to you. And just because it did happen to your friend instead of you, it doesn't mean that you were not worthy, or that you didn't deserve it. It simply means that you travel a different pathway and your own success lies in another direction.

Accept that and move on - hopefully towards your successes.

Look to the sunshine and rainbows of the good times in your lives, my friends, but be really grateful for the dark clouds of learning and enrichment. Cherish all your emotions. Embrace them, feel them, be them, live them. Don't be afraid of them. Be joyful that you can experience them all in their wonderous glory.

Cheers for now.

Brittany